If Lupita Nyong’o loses Best Supporting Actress on Sunday, we shouldn’t hate Jennifer Lawrence for it.
Actresses aside, there’re some really interesting points in this article. And it reminds me why I hate media-led people bashing/ mean-girling - it just becomes a vehicle for vicarious bullying, and an excuse for people to needlessly turn onto each other.
Here’s an article that actually cites all the sources and names all the names in the really, really sad “we have to turn on every young female actor just because” phenomenon.
This quote, ugh:
And as Star’s 2013 Most Hated Celebrities poll shows, the penalties for perceived unlikability are much higher for women than men. Whereas Justin Bieber and Chris Brown, the latter a convicted abuser, ranked a paltry eighth and 20th, respectively; Heigl nabbed fifth place. Kristen Stewart was all the way up in second, and Gwyneth Paltrow won. What makes Gwyneth Paltrow 19 spots more hateable than Chris Brown? You tell me.
GOOD! Then this isn’t in my imagination! I could feel the “we think Jen is annoying now” vibe coming from the internet after the Oscars. In fact, I could feel it starting as soon as she got a godddamn haircut.
I brought this up to a few people how it felt like people were starting to turn on her for no reason and they didn’t know what I was talking about so I’m glad to see this. Let’s try not to be a bunch of catty middle school bitches, mkay? Jennifer Lawrence is doing a great job. Especially for someone so so young and impressionable. LEAVE WOMEN ALONE! LEAVE EVERYONE ALONE!
My husband Ron and I have been hiding our agnosticism for at least a year now. Agnosticism, is the view that certain claims, particularly the existence of a god, cannot be proven or disproven. We pretty much operate now as if a god doesn’t exist, but not to a point that we feel it necessary to push that idea on anyone. God not existing just feels like a given these days, like a non-topic. What we find ourselves talking about more is what we experienced within Christianity, as children and adults. We are working through having spent the first halves of our lives accepting a very different reality and making major choices accordingly.
We were raised in a setting where Christianity was considered the one true religion. God, the Bible, Jesus, Satan, the resurrection, salvation, heaven, hell and the trinity were all to be taken as absolutes. We believed ourselves to be “born again” or “saved” and felt an extreme pressure to get others “saved”, because those who weren’t would spend eternity burning in hell without being consumed. Though many of our Christian friends have grown to accept a softer and more inclusive version of Christianity as we eventually did before fully letting go, most will believe we are going to hell and potentially taking our precious daughters with us.
Over the past couple of years my wife and I have completely deconstructed our belief in god, heaven, hell, the infallibility of the bible, and everything else that comes along with that.
We have been cautious not to peep a word of this to anyone, lest we get the same treatment my “new agey” grandmother was given during our visits that seemed to have the singular focus of getting her saved. Or the catholic family down the street who were going to hell despite their valiant efforts, because they “worshipped Mary”. Or the Muslim that had the right idea, but were also going to hell because they got the name wrong.
I used to fall asleep to this song in high school and obsessively focus on Jim Morrison. I listened to it yesterday for the first time in years and got the most intense ASMR tingles of my life. I know a lot of people aren’t that into The Doors so they might not understand how lovely I’ve always thought this song was…